Just stumbled upon this. I thought it was interesting..I just wrote about how big people are treated like they are better people if they try to lose weight, and how ridiculous that is. This is mostly about the negative attention of losing weight, and it also touches on the appropriateness of ogling.
These two comments stuck out to me from the comment section:
“…Men, don’t objectify a woman who is dressed in a bikini or be disrespectful because you like the way a woman looks…”
Following the paragraph that included:
“…Seeing younger guys glance my way, checking me out at the gym was very flattering and motivating to keep me going on the Stairmaster. But getting out of the car at the convenience store and feeling someone’s eyes on me in a negative, disgusting, weird way felt awful… “
Where being looked at (being “checked-out” implies a sexual context, doesn’t it?) by “younger guys” was positive, presumably not interpreted as objectifying. Yet being looked at by “someone” is negative.
Does this mean the perception of being objectified depends on the potential attractiveness of the male doing the looking? (ie. if the same kind of attention is welcome it isn’t objectifying but when it is not welcome is is objectifying)